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These are worth watching. This is Leo Gura, who has a unique way of presenting information. While this is more about general jealousy than it is about retro-active jealously, there is a lot of relevant and useful information here. 
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Dr. Christopher Ryan discusses jealousy and infidelity in the documentary why not watch the full length trailer at http://www.whyknotmovie.com
This looks at some RJ symptoms in the context of Borderline Personality Disorder (aka Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder).
While I'm not sure I agree that BPD leads to RJ, I think this video describes RJ thinking and RJ behaviours really well. More importantly, she talks about how you can make it better or worse depending on how you respond to the irrational thoughts.
Why you haven't heard of Retroactive Jealousy before?

A short video by Mark

​Jealous Guy, by John Lennon.

This is not just a song about jealousy. This is a song about Retroactive Jealousy. It refers to an anxiety response, irrationality, regret and the inevitable hurt caused to the partner.
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I was dreaming of the past
And my heart was beating fast
I began to lose control
I began to lose control
I didn't mean to hurt you
I'm sorry that I made you cry
Oh my I didn't want to hurt you
I'm just a jealous guy


I was feeling insecure
You might not love me anymore
I was shivering inside
I was shivering inside
Oh I didn't mean to hurt you
I'm sorry that I made you cry
Oh my I didn't want to hurt you
I'm just a jealous guy


I didn't mean to hurt you
I'm sorry that I made you cry
Oh my I didn't want to hurt you
I'm just a jealous guy


I was trying to catch your eyes
Thought that you was trying to hide
I was swallowing my pain
I was swallowing my pain
I didn't mean to hurt you
I'm sorry that I made you cry
Oh no I didn't want to hurt you
I'm just a jealous guy

Watch out baby I'm just a jealous guy
Look out baby I'm just a jealous guy
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